the rule for all of us is perfectly simple. do not waste time bothering whether you "love" your neighbour, act as if you did, as soon as we do this, we find one of the gretaest secrets. when you are behaving as if you love someone, yu will presently come to love him. if you injure someone you dislike, you will find yourself disliking him more. if you do him a good turn, you will find yourself disliking him less

i think i've been somewhat of a failure in this area lately.